In it together


We are all in this together. We need each other. Oh, how we need each other. Those of us who are old need you who are young, and hopefully, you who are young need some of us who are old…We need deep and satisfying and loyal friendships with each other. These friendships are a necessary source of sustenance. ~Marjorie Pay Hinckley

{Photo sadly uncredited, via Pinterest}

Women’s wisdom

We women have a lot to learn about simplifying our lives, we have to decide what is important and then move along at a pace that is comfortable for us. We have to develop the maturity to stop trying to prove something, we have to be content with what we are. ~Marjorie Pay Hinckley

{Photo credit: Fernand Fonssagrives, Paris}

Good morning tea

Good morning everyone!! It is a beautiful start to the day in London, one of those crisp fresh days with beautiful blue skies that let’s the sun twinkle on the frosty roof opposite and in the branches of the trees, magical! The temperature has definitely dropped a few degrees on the last day or so, and it’s starting to feel rather wintry. It’s a pretty day, cool and sparkling, and it puts a smile on my face.

I woke gently, slowly realizing my presence as I was swept up on to the shore of consciousness, and snuggled for a few moments in the warmth of the duvet; delicious in contrast to the chill in the air (I should adjust the radiators, but actually I like the contrast). I made some coffee and sat for a while on the sofa, just admiring the blue sky, and the pools of light that spill through the windows when the sun shines between the odd fluffy white cloud. It was so peaceful, and I felt that moment last more than the time it took, if you will understand that savouring sentiment. I ran a hot bath with refreshing oils of grapefruit and rosemary, and soaked away the remaining fatigue, before wrapping up in a robe for breakfast.

I’m glad the weather is kind today, I’m meeting a friend near Green park for tea (her) coffee (me) this morning, on the way to clinic. HB is a fellow nutritionist and we’re celebrating her new job, but she’s also arranging a wedding, so we have plenty to catch up on. We’re meeting at Starbucks, but I’m taking her to The Ritz for tea, after all it’s right there on the opposite side of the road, and the Christmas decorations are on display, it would be a such shame to miss them, n’est-ce pas?! So I’m rushing to get ready, I don’t want to be late! Wishing you all a wonderful day, and hope there’s a little glamour you can squeeze in somewhere too! Blessings & love, Hxx

{Photo: Tea at the Ritz, London, sadly uncredited}

…and if the music is good you dance!

…and if the music is good you dance. ~Unknown

I have a not-so-secret guilty pleasure, I love to passionately bop around the house to ‘old skool’ tunes thanks to a favourite radio station that dedicates an hour to my teenage memorabilia, every day. It can interrupt my productivity, delay the day’s chores, and plaster a great big dirty grin right across my face as I shamelessly get my groove on. There are many routes to happiness, but I like to think of dancing as a short-cut, it’s always a mood booster. I wonder whether your coffee table is a secret podium in disguise too? ; )) Hugs & happy moves, Hxx

{Amazing photo by Jacob Holdt, Music-Kisstory (11am-12pm) @}

Good morning

Good morning everyone!! Today I woke early, a little too early if I’m honest, but once my brain kicked into gear, I knew sleep wasn’t about claim me anytime soon. So I got up to make coffee and watch the sunrise, it’s been a while, and I wanted to witness that magical start to the day, where we welcome a clean slate, pristine and waiting for our potential wonderful, as well as our mistakes and learning.

I snuggled up on the sofa with my latte in the semi-darkness, and sat quietly observing the light seep into the sky. It’s another cloudy day in London, so it was neither dramatic nor stunning, but a gentle moment of peace nonetheless. The wind swayed the branches that still bear a few leaves in the nearby trees, and the geraniums persist in the window boxes, defiant and proud against the elements.

I had a big bowl of porridge for breakfast, with a zesty pink grapefruit and creamy Greek yoghurt, topped with cinnamon and almonds; and sat with my laptop addressing correspondence. I wish there was a more efficient way of managing email, and sometimes feel swamped with the deluge of notifications and spam that clutter up the important messages. I also perused some books I’m interested in on Amazon, which is ridiculous since I already have a stack waiting with another queue on my Kindle, and wonder why I’m not making time to read them. I think part of the problem is that although I have things to be getting on with at present, I’m not so busy that I’m diligent at getting things accomplished in a short space of time, becoming absorbed in the current projects so that the day slips away too quickly, and before I know it I haven’t made time for xyz. So today I’m making some changes to my list, setting deadlines to goals, and looking at what I want to achieve both personally and professionally, to help keep myself on track.

I hope you have a gorgeous day wherever you are, and that you can find a moment to appraise your achievements and goals, to check your direction. We don’t always need to know our destination, but direction, and something to aim for can give us a sense of purpose when we’re struggling through our journey, don’t you think? Let your meaning in life motivate you, and keep smiling : )) Blessings & love, Hxx

{Photo sadly uncredited, via Pinterest}


The ludicrous element in our feeling does not make them any less authentic. ~Milan Kundera, Encounter

I think our most ludicrous feelings, those that we are bewildered by and afraid of, those that threaten our equilibrium, that we are embarrassed about, and often irrationally ashamed of; are the ones that we really need to pay attention to. Because if they are still clinging steadfastly to our hearts when we can’t make sense of them, when they threaten our idea of control, and persist in rocking our world, then their illogical presence must indicate their strength, and maybe even suggests some intuitive connection that maintains their existence.. well that’s how it feels to me! I wonder if understanding them would change anything anyway! Maybe we just all need a little madness to appreciate sanity, which btw is terribly over-rated IMO! ♥ Hxx

{Photo sadly uncredited, via Pinterest. Quote ~Milan Kundera, Words ~Hayley Darby 26.Sept.2012}

Good Morning

Good morning/afternoon everyone! It’s another cold, grey day in London, and I struggled out of bed in the half-light that seems to persist as the clouds obscure the sun. I snuggled up in a comforting sweater on the sofa with my latte, responding to emails and became absorbed in some research as the candles flickered cheerfully, holding the gloominess of the climate at bay and making it cosy inside.

The dustmen (refuse collection team) called round, with their familiar brand of cheerful banter, I don’t know about your neighborhood, but mine are always laughing and joking. It’s as if they have found a coping mechanism to get up early everyday, and clear other peoples rubbish in all sorts of weather. It makes me wonder about the different types of stress we find as part and parcel of the careers and lifestyles we choose. Many of my patients are executives in the financial district, and I am often left wondering whether their jobs in such a competitive environment are worth the feelings of frustration and insecurity, and the lack of life balance due to the long hours they put in. At least the dustmen don’t seem to struggle with such internal politics or feel under constant threat of redundancy, and I’m pretty sure they usually stick to their time schedule. Of course it’s not what we do, it’s how we approach it; it’s not what happens, but how we handle it that really counts. Yet it does make me wonder whether the most successful people (if success is a measure of happiness) aren’t always those we would guess, but rather those that have chosen a life with time to enjoy it.

As my day races away, I’m aware I still have rather a lot of desk-work to catch up on; but it will have to wait, as I’m listening to that part of me that wants to walk in the wind, as the leaves chase along the pavement, and that doesn’t mind the rain when I’m dressed appropriately. So I am taking a break to walk to the gym, for a run and some thinking time on the treadmill; the desk-work won’t run away, and I believe making time for exercise is more important than constantly chasing deadlines (says the voice of experience). Sometimes we focus too much on the urgent and miss the important, so I’m grateful for the opportunity and the reminder, inspired by my cheerful dustmen.

I hope that you have a beautiful day, doing whatever it is you do; and that by being grateful for the little things, the stresses of life feel more manageable! Blessings & love, Hxx

Not doubting, just wondering..

We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be. ~C. S. Lewis

Thank you C.S. for being an open and true man of faith, prepared to share your fears with the rest of us, to help us feel that our struggles are not uncommon. I adore you even more, than I thought was possible! Thank you ♥ Hxx